how many?  oh god.  idk, it actually really often depends on whether anything ~big happened in the fandom that day.  usually i get more on the days that an episode airs or days when new photoshoots or interviews etc are released, because those don’t happen very often.  on regular days, i dunno… anywhere between, like, 5 and 20, lmao.  it also depends on how many other asks i’m answering, because oftentimes i’ll get more asks in response to those ones, etc.

as far as lines/boundaries go omg lmao um

WELL FIRST LET ME SAY THAT BROLIN FEELS ARE ALWAYS WELCOME I DON’T THINK THERE ARE ANY LIMITS OR BOUNDARIES TO THE BROLIN FEELS YOU’RE ALLOWED TO SHARE HERE seriously anything from questions to headcanons to keysmashing i take it all ok

as far as what i do sometimes ignore for whatever reason… like i mentioned in the followers videos i did a bit ago, sometimes i’ll get anons with questions that i’ve already answered a bunch of times so occasionally i’ll delete those rather than answering them again and again.  there are also times when i’m just so shit at answering asks promptly that by the time i do get to them, the questions aren’t relevant anymore.

i also said just yesterday or something that i’m going to stop publishing asks that are just outright hating on the show or the writers, because while i know people are upset about where the show’s going (and i’m among them), i don’t want that kind of added negativity on my blog.

other than that, uh… this probably won’t be relevant to you, but a while back i asked that if you’re struggling with something extremely urgent or just beyond what i can help you with (like if you come to me and tell me you’re suicidal or something), that you… refrain from using my ask box as an outlet for that, because a) i am not equipped to help you and b) messages like that are often triggering for me, considering i’ve struggled with a lot of the same in the past.  that hasn’t really been an issue for months now (it used to happen a really overwhelming amount and jfc it was terrible and incredibly saddening as well as draining) but lol since we’re on the topic.

WOW SO THAT WAS A LOT MORE THAN YOU PROBABLY NEEDED TO KNOW BUT OH WELL

WELCOME AND FEEL FREE TO USE MY ASK BOX AS YOUR HEADCANON DEPOSITORY (just be aware that they will probably be published)

oh my god. are you kidding me rn? ARE YOU ACTUALLY FUCKING KIDDING ME?

this is the second message i’ve gotten telling me to kill myself in the past three days

over shipping.

anon

i understand ships can get really personal and important, honestly, i completely understand that because i feel that way about my ships too

but you literally just told a person—another living human being in this world with a whole life and mind and potential outside the internet—to wipe themselves off the face of the planet, to take their own life, because of something they ship between fictional characters in a fictional television series.

you just told me that it’s not worth it for me even to be alive just because of what i’ve chosen to ship! tell me, anon—would you like to be the one to explain to my parents why this is reason enough for them to find me dead in my bedroom? what about my four brothers? my friends, maybe, or my boyfriend, all of whom have, in fact, been instrumental in talking me down from suicide in the past? i suppose you should explain it to my therapist as well, while you’re at it, and then, just to bring it all full circle, you can tell bradley the way you valiantly supported him and see what he says about it.

if you like, anon, i could show you my wristband from when i was in the hospital three years ago after a planned suicide attempt—which just so happened to be barely three months after an actual suicide attempt—or i could show you the scars on my legs and arms that i put there because i really wasn’t sure i wanted to be alive anymore, but now are there as proof that i survived. but then after all of that, anon, i’m going to tell you about how this ship, these characters, these actors, and this fandom are what brought me to people who are a huge part of the reason i survived, people who pulled me back from the brink—all these things that made me happy when nothing else did.

so you want me to kill myself, anon? no fucking thank you. been there, done that, not going back. ever.

now get the fuck off my blog.

PSA regarding anons 

over time i have gotten plenty of messages from people struggling with depression, self-harm, or suicidal ideations.  i’ve always answered these messages with as much heart and sincerity as i could and the best advice i felt i could offer, partly because i do genuinely want to help people, but partly because i felt obligated.

the fact is i am not the one to talk to about these things.  not only is it extremely draining when i answer message after message like this (especially since answering one message often spurs an entire chain of them), but it can also be incredibly triggering for me, seeing as i have struggled/do struggle with the same issues and i’m often not too far from the same feelings expressed by those asking for help.  

i cannot give you the help you need in these more serious situations, and in fact, i know that in the end, most of what i can offer is just enabling attention, and that is not going to help you.  the last thing i want to do is indirectly cause harm by feeding into the issues.

i care about every one of my followers a great deal and honestly, that’s why i need to ask that you refrain from leaving me messages telling me about your depression/self harm/suicidal thoughts just for the sake of telling somebody.  i am not the right person to tell, because i am not capable of giving you the help you need, and it’s not fair to either of us for you to tell me everything that’s wrong when in the end i can do nothing to really give you the help you need.

if you’re struggling with depression, self-harm, and/or suicidal ideations, and you’re seeking help—and especially if you need more immediate attention—please start by calling one of these numbers.

tl;dr: i am not the person to talk to about your emotionally heavy, real-life problems, but there are people who can help.

i do understand what you’re saying and hey, maybe you’re right.  and to a certain extent i don’t mind people using my ask box for something along those lines, at least when it’s fandom-related—that is to say, i love when people drop random headcanons in my ask box or come and flail about a ship, etc.  considering i’m part of this fandom, obviously those things are perfectly relevant to me (well i mean unless it’s for a ship i have no interest in but that doesn’t really happen so).

but honestly (and this isn’t so much to you in particular, anon, as just regarding anons in general, because i really am not trying to rant at you and i do understand your point), this is my blog, and whether or not its popular, people have their own blogs for their personal things.  my ask box is there for people who want to talk to me, not just for people to say things knowing that lots of others will see it.

that being said, it is an entirely different issue when i get an anonymous message telling me that i should kill myself, and if someone’s going to leave that in my inbox, of fucking course i’m going to assume it’s directed at me.

i guess my only point here is, please, please think about the messages you’re sending to someone on their personal blog, because i don’t want my blog to turn into a bulletin board, and i assume that the messages i get are for me, to talk to me, or relevant to me in some way.  that being said, if what you want to say to me is going to make me feel like utter shit, please get off my blog and stay away from my ask box.

so just… keep all that in mind, i guess?

i do get plenty of non-fandom-related anons, and that’s fine.  i’m still happy to answer those messages; i’d just prefer if people didn’t use my ask box as a place to just say things, or to talk about problems that i have no way of really helping them with, etc.  if you want to talk, awesome.  if you’re just putting something out there that i can’t even really respond to, then i’d… rather you didn’t drop it in my personal inbox.

phew so that got long and out of hand and kind of off-topic welp