i’m pretty sure this is actually exactly what happened

but you left out the part where i bet bradley didn’t think he could love anyone’s cheekbones more than his own but LO AND BEHOLD

before now i just haven’t really thought about what people should be “allowed” to do or not?? like no i don’t think people should be allowed to do whatever the fuck they want to themselves. if somebody is doing (or trying to do) bodily harm to themselves, like if someone is going to kill themselves for instance, then no, they should not fucking be allowed to kill themselves, and similarly, is somebody is going to the length of literally starving themselves to death because they’re losing weight for the wrong reasons, then no, i also don’t think they should be allowed to continue starving themselves until they die.

that being said, saying “do it for the right reasons” isn’t telling people they’re not allowed to do whatever the fuck they want, it’s encouraging them to look inward regarding things like that and ask themselves if they’re doing it for the right reasons, because it’s in any person’s best interest to do things for the right reasons.

i agree that nobody has the right to try and force their hypothetical friend to stop dieting, even if said hypothetical friend is hypothetically losing weight because they have severe body image issues and they believe that losing weight will solve that (or, in other words, what i would call ‘the wrong reasons’).  but i do think that when you’re only doing something as a misguided effort to fix a deeper shame problem, for instance, then not only are you not actually addressing the real problem, but you’re reinforcing that shame.  if you’re happy you lost weight because you think you were disgusting when you were heavier, that is reinforcing a deeper shame problem and there is clearly still something destructive with the way you’re thinking about yourself.  which doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be allowed to do it.  it just means that you’re likely only worsening those deeper issues in the long run, and eventually you’re going to have to figure out how to deal with them for real.

my overall point here is this: don’t police other people’s choices, but give enough of a shit about yourself to police your own.

i don’t really think it’s okay to tell anyone what they should or shouldn’t do with their body?? being thin is fine, being fat is fine, wanting to change the way you look is fine, in my opinion. i think the idea of ‘promoting self-love’ going so far as ‘shaming someone for wanting to change something about themselves’ would be as wrong as telling someone they need to change themselves.

that being said, the reason that might happen could easily be a result of the reasons someone has for wanting to lose weight. i know from experience that it is common for people to want to lose weight because they feel ashamed of having more fat than other people, or because they feel like they should in order to better fit into society, or because other people are telling them they should—essentially only because they feel that the way they are is somehow wrong, only because they’re getting that message from literally our entire society. (also, they might go about it unhealthily.) and while losing weight is fine, those reasons, in my opinion, are the wrong reasons, only because if that’s your mindset about wanting to lose weight, then the weight isn’t the problem; the problem is a real sense of body shame and low self esteem that losing weight probably won’t fix.

loving yourself is very important, and learning that all bodies are great bodies (even yours!) is also important. but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing to want to make a lifestyle change. like idk man, personally i would rather focus on being healthy rather than being skinny. this is the first time in my life i’ve started exercising and trying to eat better without the sole goal of losing weight in the front of my mind, and i’m pretty fuckin happy, but that’s just me.

i guess my only real opinion here is that as far as other people go, let them be unless you see that there’s really something wrong with their thinking or what they’re doing. and as far as you yourself go, do what makes you happy, as long as it’s not harming yourself, and do it for the right reasons. (and above all, never stop loving yourself.)

tags: #O H #MERTHUR #REINCARNATION #i panicked and stapled my queue to my face

ARTHUR’S RETURN
“I knew you’d be here. I’ve missed you, Merlin.”
“You don’t know how long I’ve waited to hear that.”
“You can tell me all about it, yeah? Over a drink?” 

rainbow ombre that didn’t turn out quite as i’d hoped but WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK

AWW THANK YOU I WISH YOU WERE MY FRIEND ALSO

SIGHS I WISH I WAS HANGING OUT WITH BECCA AND AGGIE AGAIN THIS SUMMER

tags: #i love u #mmfd #i panicked and stapled my queue to my face

girlwithapumpkintattoo:

           _{I don’t like boys. And even if I did like boys and I was fat, they’d like me anyway.
                                  Why would they like you?                 Because I’m brilliant.}

tags: #oh my god AWESOME #important

anothermatterentirely:

AHHH HUFFINTON POST IS DOING A SIX ARTICLE SERIES ON ASEXUALITY

AND INCLUDING STUFF LIKE SCIENCE, MISCONCEPTIONS, ROMANTIC ORIENTATION, RAPE CULTURE, AND THE QUEER DEBATE AAHHHHHH

tags: #i will bet all my money on less than twenty seconds #brolin

foxyplaydate:

let’s play how long does it take Bradley and Colin to forget there are other people there.

tags: #OH MY GOD I VOTE YES #manip #katie mcgrath #i panicked and stapled my queue to my face

pinennut:

Disney Dreamcast: Peter Pan

• Katie McGrath as Captain Hook

thank you! :3

i was actually literally just wondering this myself like thirty seconds ago

IDK ANON BUT I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW ALSO

do u ever start caring about your sims more than you care about most real people